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Children's Center
From the Book of
Children
Introduction to the Book of
Children
Parent
Compatibility and Family Karma
Nutritional Rescue Advice to Parents
Table of Contents
Author Stephen Gislason MD
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Parents’ primary duty is to
provide nurturance and custodial care for their children. Parents are generous
people who sacrifice personal goals and pleasures in favor of caring for their
children. Good parents are generous benefactors who provide resources that their
children need in a strategic and judicious manner so their children grow into
self-reliant adults with responsibilities, careers and incomes. fight games
Parents can guide their
children by feeding them the correct food and by selecting the best community,
the best peer group and the best schools they can identify and afford. An
enlightened society would allocate generous resources to achieving excellence in
the nurturing and education of children above and beyond the care provided by
parents.
Human narcissism begins with
birth and infants are relentless in their demands. They cry and scream when they
are dissatisfied and each infant has no doubt that he or she is the center of
the universe. A good parent supports this
innate narcissism to build basic warmth and confidence in the child. As the
child matures, the excellent parent guides him or her toward a more social and
tolerant attitude towards others. The excellent parent does not threaten or hit
a child; conflict is resolved by negotiation, humor and affection. An excellent
parent encourages social interaction with other children but is watchful and
discriminating about the company the child keeps. free games
The transformation of
narcissistic preoccupation of the young child into a more social and caring
older child is critical to the future ability of the child to live a successful
and happy life as an adult. The excellent parent is a guru who leads the child
from darkness to the light.
An excellent parent and good
teachers know that error is inevitable and all learning involves mistakes. There
is a common tendency to punish mistakes and ignore successes. A better strategy
is to correct mistakes but not punish and reward good behavior, work and good
outcomes. An excellent parent overrides the tendency to criticize, blame and
punish and with patience and practice, cultivates the opposite strategy. You
have to pay attention and reward success while quietly noting failures. The
excellent parent thinks in terms of protecting the child from danger and seeks
remedial strategies such as offering more opportunity to practice skills that
are not well-developed and guidance towards more successful strategies of
interaction with the world.
A good guru realizes that he or
she cannot change the deep determinants of karma in a child, but can nourish the
good and promising qualities in each individual and minimize or ignore the less
desirable. The opportunity for a positive parent's role in child development is
greatest in the first five years and diminishes thereafter. Teachers, adult
relatives and other children pay an increasing role in child development and
peer influence dominates adolescent development. Good parents, however, continue
to play important roles at all stages of development.
Good parents must be flexible
and adaptive because their role and duties keep changing. Mothers are busy
providing all the logistical support their young children require and express
their hopes and aspirations by enrolling their children in a succession of
courses, clubs and sports activities. Emphasis on these extracurricular
activities can penalize both parent and child. Parents risk becoming underpaid
chauffeurs and servants to indulged children who fail to become friendly and
affectionate partners in creating and maintaining a nurturing home.
The accomplishments of children
need to be placed in a perspective of what ultimately makes life enjoyable and
fulfilling. Children who are preoccupied with their own recreation and
structured activities may lose the opportunity to enjoy their own playful
creativity and just hanging out with family and friends. They may not learn to
care for themselves and others in a peaceful, orderly home environment.
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